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from him mondays: remembering M.L.K.

by lizzie & isaiah on January 17, 2011 · 10 comments

martin luther king negotiating the civil rights movement with lyndon b. johnson

martin luther king, jr and malcom x for martin luther king, jr. day

Hey every one, it’s Isaiah. I came out of hybernation for this: Martin Luther King, Jr. Day.  I may not have made it clear, but I am of mixed descent. I most closely identify with my Puerto Rican heritage (mostly because I don’t look especially black), but I’ve never denied my African-American heritage.

I feel deeply conected to black issues. This day* shamefully gets overlooked by many people – including myself - but not this year…this year I will speak up.

It seems racism takes a more silent approach these days. Though I appreciate the upgrade and realize I’m not directly oppressed, I see the occassional overt and blatant disregard for courtesy and social consciousness. Some of this may be attributed to me being so far south of the Mason-Dixon…Chicago isn’t racist at all…It’s not like the city is split up into clearly divided ethnic neighborhoods or anything…

But really, let’s just all blame the Mexicans…

I kid…

Honestly, I feel the “Good ‘Ole Boy” attitude down here adds a bit to how casual people are with their slurs. In Chicago, you never know who’s what so you better watch your mouth.

During a serving shift shortly after I moved to Texas, I became aware of a disgusting serving term: Canadians. No, it has nothing to do with that large, cold (?) country above and more to do with it’s first letter: C…as in colored…I don’t think they ever said that on Sesame St. (note to self: Learn more about Canada).

Lizzie’s ex-step-father once mentioned some of the social reprecutions of having my last name.

and my favorite…

Throughout the time I worked at Best Buy, I was turned away from sales for a number of reasons - my “hard-to-handle-Chicago-accent” being one of the nicer ones. During one particularly long shift, I overheard a hick talking to his wife in the TV section as a preview of the movie Avatar came up. His first, natural response was, “You can paint a nigger blue, but they’re still a nigger.”

It’s an ugly truth. Racism still bubbles to the surface of this still-young country. If you find yourself born into a family that has been ingrained with biggotry for generations – help us all out and work on yourself.

I believe that’s the simplest, single-best way to honor Martin Luther King, Jr.

1) President Lyndon B. Johnson meets with Martin Luther King, Jr. via Wikimedia 2) Martin Luther King, Jr. and Malcolm X via Britannica

*Technically weekend because Martin Luther King, Jr. Day is supposed to remember his birthday - January 15th. It’s a time to celebrate the power of the Civil Rights Movement, time to remember the work of Dr. King and time to reflect on our past and decide the future will continue to move forward.


From Him Mondays: Framework

by lizzie & isaiah on November 15, 2010 · 7 comments


A cute, funny brunette with wit and exceptional taste in music/willingness to explore, who likes/appreciates art, and is generally awesome.  That’s the shortlist.

I think it was mostly supposed to be like jazz… improvisational and in sync… even when it was out of sync.

The missing member of a one man (sexism unintended) band.

Not an easy thing to find…even when you’re just looking to form an actual band and especially when you’re trying to for the last band ever.

I think I was a little unconventional-type of fella never willing to give something any time if I didn’t see possibility in it. My mom asked me once “How will you know what you do want if you don’t know what you don’t want?”  I was pretty sure I’d know it when i saw it.

I didn’t…well…not out right.  I know that sounds unromantic as hell, but there are a million-and-one factors in the whole thing and paths were being crossed and it was coming together behind the scenes.

The last piece of my personal journey was something that wasn’t completely on my list but truly completed my “framework”.  I had moved back to Chicago from Vegas and was spending my cash stupidly fast and without any eye on it…only to find myself negative $500.00…ouch.  She comforted me at my financial worst and said simply “Don’t worry hon, we’ll figure it out.”

I’ve seen the financial end turn venomous and I have a special distaste for unsupportive people.  Obviously there must be a certain responsibility one must take when it comes to that necessary evil, but that sort of comfort at that time with this woman was when I truly knew what kind of extraordinarily beautiful and complete person I had found in Lizzie.

Lizzie black and white photo

My framework was the most basic outline in comparison with the real thing… she’s got chops. (Music term…bringing the whole jazz thing full circle…see what i did there… yeah…right, but you get it)

In other news, my sketchbook has arrived…so expect to see little to none of me around here for a while.

If you’re new to the blog, check out the rest of the posts “From Him” to read Isaiah’s often humorous and always sweet perspective on the planning process.



Sketchbook Project

by lizzie & isaiah on November 4, 2010 · 21 comments

The Sketchbook Project: 2011

I got Isaiah a little gift today. I bought his entry into the Art House Coop’s Sketchbook Project.

If you haven’t heard about it, definitely check it out, it’s a badass project.

Beyond the obvious exposure to Isaiah’s art, we’ve both been in a tiny creative funk lately. We both have many creative outlets, but Isaiah’s main priority is definitely art. Obviously, his most recent endeavors in graphic design are encompassed by art…but there’s something tricky about confining an artist to a computer…they never get to see the full glory of their work in print. Isaiah has been a graphic designer for more than ten years and has the most marvelously creative eye I’ve ever seen.

But the painting, oh, the painting. The painting that hangs half finished. I’ve been nudging him to get back into his original love of painting and drawing for more than one reason. First, to finish said half-finished painting. Second, because it’s too easy to get into ruts when you’re not getting to see your work’s full experience.

I enlisted him in The Sketchbook Project, to which he hugged me sweetly and said, “Thank you, baby,” in the most humble tone I’ve heard in a long time from this egomaniac. I kid.

I can’t wait to share some of his projects along the way, he’s really brilliant, kids.

Who wants to give Isaiah a gigantic round of applause with me?


From Him Monday: She Sick, He Sick

by lizzie & isaiah on September 27, 2010 · 5 comments

In my experience, women are much more tolerant of being sick than us guys are.  I’ll be the first to say I am a huge F-ing baby.  Lizzie was sick most of the week.  Took her the the doc with an on and off again fever and the doc barely looked her over before deciding it was a cold (it wasn’t), and it pisses me off to no end when docs are so dismissive, this doc didnt even look at her throat after Lizzie described it as being really sore and feeling like sand paper. Idiots.

She started getting better and my nose started to cease to work.  Last Thursday we went to see The Black Keys and Kings of Leon and I started getting sick in full effect.  Great show…Black Keys owned.  I’m now certain that I only like maybe two songs by KOL. I am now at the cough and feels-like-I-could-es-plode phase of this thing. Lizzie’s taken good care of me.

As for movies, the vampire genre has had a noticeable and well publicized boom in pop culture which can be the only explanation as to why this movie could have possibly fallen through the cracks.  Teeny boppers have hijacked the arena and all flicks with real “bite” (pun intended) get over looked if they lose that audience.  The film is called “Daybreakers” and Lizzie and I passed it up a bunch of times…but we kept coming back to it reading Willem Dafoe and Ethan Hawk…How can this not be awesome?  The main problem was that no one we know ever said anything about it one way or the other and if you dont hear about a flick you assume its for a reason.  I’m now convinced its because everyone else is just like us and passed it up.  Think Gattica meets the first Matrix meets Underworld with a touch of the video game BioShock.  A clean and well executed gem.  A horror, sci-fi, action hybrid.  I urge you all to check it out.

This has nothing to do with weddings, it’s really just filler about what’s going on in our world…we spent Saturday and Sunday completely wrapped up in homework and our Netflix instant cue, tackling both Daybreakers and Coppola’s Dracula…along with an embarrassing amount of other movies.

To bring it back in the wedding realm, we had a brief discussion on suits. I personally no longer own my own suit and would like to have a tailored suit for the wedding…however, to stay in budget, I may rent.

Did you or your groom buy or rent your suit?

What do you recommend?

If you bought a suit, did you have it custom tailored?

While I’m back to being pampered by my sweet Lizzie…she gets to bring me tissues and medicine for another day…but I should be back on my feet tomorrow. It feels great to take care of someone…and then turn around and have them take care of you just as well.

Check out Glamour and Grace today, where Megan featured us and ctrlP!


From Him Mondays: Screech.

August 30, 2010

The more I think about the wedding, the more I think about the Justice of the Peace. But I want the big, family-included-soiree as much as anyone. This would all be a little easier, of course, if we were at different points in our lives. If I hadn’t been let-go, if Lizzie wasn’t still in [...]

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Freak Out: No Lizzie, Slash ramble

July 16, 2010

First off forgive the countless grammer mistakes, Lizzie’s my own personal world class editor.  Second, damn I miss that gal, and its only been 5hrs so far. Last night the whole goal was to get errands ran and get her stuff together early so we could chill and enjoy our last evening together before the trip.  In [...]

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From Him Mondays: Brokalope.

June 29, 2010

Shh…We’re here observing the brokalope in his natural habitat. Do you see how the majestic brokalope moves very swiftly and frugally so as not to disturb his bank account. Notice the empty bags of dollar menu items…And pay close attention to the way he drives only within two miles of his apartment. We decided a [...]

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From him: Shrunken Dude Syndrome

June 21, 2010

Back to the fella’s journey through this whole thing.  Now, Lizzie touched on it, but now its my turn to tell you the play-by-play of finding cloths for the engagement shoot.  I thought I’d be slick and go to Target on my lunch break, my shirt/shirts and bolt, like us guys do. WRONG. Did you [...]

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FHM: Recycled Books

June 14, 2010

We stole a play straight from Ashley of Hi-Fi Weddings and remade our own sleevefaces. Only ours aren’t accurate at all and still have the plastic-wrap on. That’s okay. We wanted to scope out the venue for our engagement shoot beforehand, make sure we liked how the photos came out. Here’s a sneak peek at [...]

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From Him Mondays: Molar Mayhem

June 7, 2010

Whats up yo! Its the fella writin’ this while loosely watching Hook.  Lizzie is feelin’ a little under the weather so we’ve kinda taken the night off.  We got some kick-ass Chinese and chilled.  Good times.  Lizzie caught this: “We could do anything or nothing! All it had to be was anything, cause it was [...]

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